Through all of the pain and heartache you go through when you lose a child, you don't think of the possible baggage that could come along with that. Especially if you have PTSD from the experience. There are so many triggers, that you didn't realize were triggers. Until somebody qualified taught you how to identify them.
Triggers come in so many forms after losing a child, especially accompanied by PTSD. Anything at all that's related to a baby is excruciating. Clothing, toys, schools, parks, anywhere a child could be. One of the worst are pregnant women. Personally I become so torn, because I am so happy for them and at the same time it feels like I'm dying inside all over again.
However, I realized something over this weekend. There were Trigger's I hadn't identified for what they were because I categorized those in the "Happy" part of my pregnancy. When there wasn't anything wrong with my baby, I was happily "dating" somebody who was not Lillian's father. I fell hard and fast for him, but not very far into it he backed off and said he was scared to get involved with somebody who was pregnant. I was hurt, my heart was broken. But we stayed friends and he became a support system of sorts for me. He meant a lot to me after I had lost her, he will always have a special place in my heart.
With that said, he is also a Trigger. If I see him or talk to him, I get flashbacks, nightmares and I just become overcome with grief. So, my point of this post, is that just because it was something good in your life at the time, doesn't mean that it won't cause you pain in the aftermath of what had happened.
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